Thanks for your thoughtful response, Elizabeth!

I would have to agree with you there, I don't think it is a 'necessity' either. In fact, I don't doubt there are many groups of guys (girls, or anyone else) who avoid humiliating each other entirely. But when it does happen - particularly among men - I do think there is some form of deeper meaning behind it. And I definitely agree that there are many different and likely better ways of affirming these same bonds, things like compassion, acts of selflessness, offering them your time - all of these can be just as impactful on the quality of group relationships.

That's an interesting point though regarding homophobia and intimacy in relationships among men. I hadn't considered the historical legacy of these, and it's something I'll have to put more thought into. I do believe however regarding sensitivity among men that the tides are shifting, as men's mental health is become less and less an issue that is simply scoffed at. In turn, I've seen a dramatic increase in conversations between very 'masculine' guys that I know focused on mental well being. Hopefully this is a trend that continues, and hopefully your son will experience it as well!